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    Hi guys,

    I'm quite new on here and was really after a bit of advice from anybody that's been in my position. I'm a young at heart 46 year old due to start a cadetship and under no illusions its going to be hard work. I was just getting a bit concerned about how easy or otherwise it will be for me being able to fit in at college where I guess the average age is 20-23? I'm very young at heart but i'm not 18!, and I cant drink more than 2 pints without getting a hangover so its unlikely I will be winning any awards there....I can however offer lifts to the pub as I have a car so that may help! I have sailed on yachts with people of all ages and not had any issues and appreciate that all ages and nationalities have to rub along on board ship. I guess my concern is that being old enough to be most peoples father is going to be a bit strange and maybe just not realistic? If anybody here has had experience of a similar situation I would love to hear and please be brutally honest with me....I can take a joke or I wouldn't have signed up!

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    I wouldn't overly worry about it, not every cadet is out to get smashed every night, you may find some older guys or girls in your class as it has become more common for older people to change career and take this route. I was 20 when I started but my class varied from 16 to 31. But by the end of the course everyone had forgotten about ages, there was some jokes made with the oldest in the class being 30 odd but he joined in all the same. As long when you go away on ship you can accept instruction from officers who could be much younger than yourself you should be able to get along fine. Everyone is in the same position no matter their age, the younger ones may be suffering more if they have only just left home for the first time etc
    Be what you want to be not what other people tell you to be
    Adapt and over come
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    • #3
      From what I've seen in my phase with the 2 older guys is that the younger ones go to them for life advice if they feel they can't talk to their parents.

      I'm not saying you're going to have to deliver The Talk, but stuff they don't want family to know, or how to broach it with them.

      One guy used to be a cop, so he's invaluable to some students on certain occasions....


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      • #4
        Hi Stronglead,

        Thanks for that. I certainly don't mind a bit of mickey taking. On board I would take instruction/orders from anybody to be honest. I don't see age as an issue...if you're good enough you're old enough and I'm acutely aware that I will be the bottom of the pecking order for quite some time!


        Originally posted by stronglead View Post
        I wouldn't overly worry about it, not every cadet is out to get smashed every night, you may find some older guys or girls in your class as it has become more common for older people to change career and take this route. I was 20 when I started but my class varied from 16 to 31. But by the end of the course everyone had forgotten about ages, there was some jokes made with the oldest in the class being 30 odd but he joined in all the same. As long when you go away on ship you can accept instruction from officers who could be much younger than yourself you should be able to get along fine. Everyone is in the same position no matter their age, the younger ones may be suffering more if they have only just left home for the first time etc

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        • #5
          Hi Inland Pirate,

          Thanks for that. Had a fair amount of practice at being a good listener and offering advice based on the screw ups I had when I was younger. I certainly don't want to be seen as somehow above others because of my age and I'm definitely not that sort of guy however I also can't try and be a 20 year old either so guess its just going to be a strange one at first. I think it would be wrong to try and be 'down with the kids' in that sense as its obvious I'm not!

          I am a pretty humble person generally and certainly will be with anybody on board. I can see why an older cadet would worry some people as they might think they are above it all. I currently pitch in with pretty menial tasks like unblocking the heads on the boats here where I work and my view is that you have to do every job and do it well with out whinging. I imagine that some guys on board have had older cadets who have come from a background where they are not used to that and have taken objection to being asked to do some menial task.

          Any other oldies on here with any nuggets of info and how they found it would be really appreciated. Cheers guys.

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          • #6
            That's a good way to look at it, it hasn't happened to me in the job but with the cadets I had someone refuse an instruction/order from me purely on the fact he was older than me although I held a higher rank (the cadets work on a military style so orders are usually given) but if you muck in and are willing to learn usually you get on fine and sometimes you might be trusted a bit more than a young 17 year old who just wants to push buttons to see what happens if you follow my meaning.....
            Be what you want to be not what other people tell you to be
            Adapt and over come
            Careers At Sea Ambassador

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            • #7
              Good to hear I'm not alone! I'm 45 and just preparing to apply for a deck cadetship. Let us know how you get on. Good luck!

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              • #8
                Good for you, Mac - yay for the oldies! Good luck with the apps.

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                • #9
                  Good luck guys, I'm sure if you have the balls to change career at 40+ then you have the motivation to make it work. I admire your determination and I'm sure you'll succeed.

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                  • #10
                    Hi Guys,

                    I wouldn't worry about this - when you go to sea everyone has to work, laugh and socialise with each other. That's from the youngest on board to the oldest, the ages on board can range from 16 to 60 and everyone has to gel and get on. Exactly the same as college, anyone that says anything to you about being 46 is going to be in for a shock when they get on board and have to socialise with people considerably older.

                    As YM says above, good luck to you. Its very brave to change your life in such a way - well done.

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                    • #11
                      Hi Young Mariner,
                      many thanks
                      ;91162]Good luck guys, I'm sure if you have the balls to change career at 40+ then you have the motivation to make it work. I admire your determination and I'm sure you'll succeed.[/QUOTE]

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                      • #12
                        Hi Rob, I,m 45 and although I am now phase five I found it fine, even having 17 year old class mates. You will settle in with no worries atall. In think the thing to bear in mind the most is you may need to spend a bit more time on reports and revision, as my memory definately is not what it was! Its just putting in those extra hours. I have loved every minute of it and am looking forward to qualifying! It was the best move in career I have ever made. Good luck and let me know if you need any advice on anything. I am at Warsash so our paths may even cross!

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                        • #13
                          I'm 43 and a deck cadet at NMCI and loving every minute of it. As with all worthwhile qualifications then a commitment to spending time studying outside lectures is needed. There are quite a few mature (25yrs+) cadets in my class.

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