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    I am a first time deck cadet on his first trip. I have not enjoyed the trip all that much and feel I'm better off doing something else. Opinions?

  • #2
    Stick it out at least for your first trip. I hated my first trip, didn’t get on with a lot of the crew and I felt the exact same but now after finishing I realise it was worth it in the long run. If you’re still in your first weeks then it’s completely normal to feel that way. After your first trip or maybe your second then you will probably have a good idea whether this is the career for you.


    • #3
      Exactly as said above. Why have you not enjoyed your first trip? I didn't particularly like my first sea phase either, but the second one was considerably better.

      Honestly, I would give it time and give it a second chance - like with everything else.
      "Knowledge is gained through experience and experience is just another name for our mistakes" - Albert Einstein/Oscar Wilde
      "Choose a career that you really enjoy and you will never have to work a single day in life."

      Experience with Container, General Cargo and Cruise vessels.


      • #4
        How long have you been at sea?

        Whenever I first join a ship, the first couple of weeks I usually feel pretty miserable. It takes time to get to know the other people on board and settle in to a new environment after enjoying time at home with friends and family.

        You might not get on with the crew but usually if you show you're willing to learn and you put in some effort/take some initiative then people can see and respect that.

        However, this career is not for everyone and if you truly feel that it's not working then there's no shame in doing what's right for you.

        As others have said above though, now you're away on your first trip I would recommend sticking it out and seeing if things get better - do what you can to spend time socialising and limit how long you're spending alone in your cabin if you're feeling homesick.


        • #5
          I have one month to go out of a 4 month trip. I can't say I have enjoyed it all that much. I'm very depressed and upset alot. I found that I have lost interest. I can't seem to enjoy it.


          • #6
            If you haven't already and if you feel you can then I would advise you to speak to one of the officers on board about how you're feeling. Also, is your training manager aware that you're having a difficult time? They may be able to help. I know within my company there are resources available to help with depression on board such as counselling via skype or email and online discussions. You may not be feeling like you need that sort of support but it's good to be aware of it!

            One month can sound like a long time but if you get your head down into your studies and make an effort to get involved on board I know the time can fly by for me.

            Of course, nobody on this forum knows your specific circumstances and it will help to get some support from your family, friends and the people you're sailing with.


            • #7
              What is it about it you're not liking? What's making you feel the way you do? I found that when I was finding things difficult, the career seemed daunting and like it wouldn't get along with my way of thinking, but once I sat down and understood what I was doing; I found it was a lot better and I started really enjoying things. I qualified last month and i'm glad I saw it out. Do you have any other cadets with you? That helps.


              • #8
                I was really looking forward to going to sea. I went and can't find the bridge interesting anymore nor do I find the deck work of interest either. It find it boring. I'm sorry if that's an insult to you all. I try to read navigation books only to find that I just have 0 interest. I'm sponsored also.


                • #9
                  Are you from the UK? I take it if you are you're on a tonnage tax ship?

                  I was lucky at sea to find navigation/cargo work interesting. However if there were things I didn't, I motivated myself by pushing to become proficient at each individual task. However, I do completely understand how you might fine lots on a ship boring once mastered; that said, I can guarantee that after only 3 months you still have lots and lots you can teach yourself/learn. I was a bit of a CelNav nerd and there are loads of techniques that the old school types in college haven't heard of and make the 3rd mate feel queasy - but no excuse not to learn about them if you are bored!

                  I hated my first trip to sea, the only thing that kept me from quitting was that I found I could teach myself lots and did quite like the subject area. Contrary to common opinion on here, my second trip wasn't much better. 3rd trip was a bit of an improvement. I found myself back on my 1st ship for my 4th trip to sea and honestly almost chucked it in at that late stage when I found out. But surprise, that was my most enjoyable trip to sea. Same crew, same ship, same place. But my experience and ability had come on lots and suddenly I found myself more than able to help out and fit in. People respect competence at sea, and if you aren't competent yet, all you can do is ask and ask and make a point of learning yourself.

                  If you really stuck at it im sure you could finish it. Remember that most jobs aren't the dream for most people - after some time at sea I went ashore, I never loved being at sea but in the grand scheme of things I liked the money and leave enough to stick it out till I had the chance to move ashore. People say there aren't opportunities ashore for Deckies at a junior rank - that's just not true. However working hard in college and getting good grades is very very important if you want to make the move ashore.

                  If you aren't gonna put the work in to get high scores throughout the cadetship and do the networking then dropping out would be the best idea. If you are willing to work away, and you find the maritime industry interesting - then go for it!


                  • #10
                    I also had a pretty miserable first trip at sea, seriously considered quitting. The second trip was significantly better and after qualifying I moved to passenger ships and then super yachts which were much enjoyable.
                    You will have good trips and bad trips, the bad ones you will want to quit, but just keep at it knowing that the next time you go to sea it will be with a completely new crew and a completely different ship. In most occupations people will stay in the same job for years working with the same people, whether they like it or not. But with our industry there is no stigma attached to changing ship or changing company.


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