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Not really, you normally get hunted down, the only exception I found was at safety officer level everyone knew you were working your nuts off so much already you normally get a free pass from the weekly cocktails etc
The only time I got away with not going on formal night was because a tender was hanging off the side of the ship - although captain was using same excuse...